THE ETIQUETTE OF DOG WALKING
Have you ever had someone cross over to the other side of the road with their dog(s) when they see you walking toward them with your dog(s)? That is a clear indication they don’t want the dogs to interact. Or, maybe they don’t like other people. Either way, we should respect the overt gesture.
Photo taken by Oak & Myrrh Photography
As a pet parent to a fearful, special needs mill dog, I deeply sympathized when I learned of a friend’s dog walking experiences.
Following the loss of their beloved Yorkshire Terrier, Skeeter, just before Christmas, Tammy and her husband decided to fill the overwhelming void by providing a loving home to a rescue dog. They fell in love with a bonded pair. Brothers Manny and Nico.
As is the case with some rescue dogs due to difficult and uncertain pasts, a vast amount of patience is required, and there is an adjustment period for dogs and their new owners.
Tammy admits Skeeter did NOT walk perfectly but was easy to scoop up and remove from a threat.
People would tell me don’t worry about my dog he is very friendly and I would say well mine isn’t always friendly so let’s not take a chance
Tammy adds: ‘I had someone who came all the way up my driveway with their dog all the while I am telling them hey my dog isn’t that friendly, and he’s behind me snarling and barking and guess what ended up happening? Yes, my dog bit her dog. GO FIGURE! She never brought her dog up my driveway again. And the thing is I had never even met this woman before!’
Unfortunately, that is one of many incidents where a dog is put in a dangerous situation by an irresponsible owner. These situations can be easily avoided.
Tammy now has both hands full (two leashes) and is dedicated to socializing and training her new pack members.
If my dog is acting like a goof and barking like crazy and pulling at his leash because he sees your dog, could you please walk quietly on and not try to talk to me as I am trying to get my dog or dogs under control.
If I tell you I have a rescue dog; I’m not sure how my dog will act with yours, and I would like to keep them separate, please respect my wishes and not try to argue with me and tell me how friendly your dog is. Your dog is agitated, barking and lunging at my dogs. Do not force your dog on mine because (you think) your dog really wants to meet my dogs. It’s only making the situation worse.
I believe that I am a responsible pet owner and am trying to educate myself on proper dog etiquette. I also try to educate myself on dog behaviour. When I see something that is causing my dogs to act out, I will try to remove them from the problem. It is hard enough trying to keep my dogs under control and watch for cars, etc. without having to worry about you approaching me with your dogs.
I know you mean well but please LET US BE! Once my dogs are more socialized and settled and better behaved, we can try to have our dogs meet!
There is often more to people’s situation than can be assumed when you see someone out walking their dog. Even if the dog is not a new, puppy, the dog might be new to those people. If it IS a puppy, the people might be working on training and similar to a rescue situation, still figuring out the dog’s personality! It might not even be THEIR dog.
Tricia Soulier of Pawsitive Approach Pet Services and her team provides dog walking services for pets while their people are working.
Some of the frustrations Trish has encountered are:
Children walking dogs and dogs that are off leash.
Children are not emotionally mature enough to respond to potential dangers
My team and I have ended up in the middle of such situations, and we have been injured! None of us want to hurt a dog, but it is our responsibility to ensure the safety of the dogs we walk.
Often, dogs that are off leash on someone’s property run towards dogs being walked along the road. The situation could quickly escalate into a fight. I would not want to see a child in the middle of that.
Flexi leashes are another concern as they do not allow adequate control, and they break. Too much can happen before the handler can reel them in – especially when you add traffic to a scenario.
Oblivious parents is another issue. Trish had in her care a Bernese, lab cross puppy. As she walked by a picnic area, the parents sat at a nearby table and watched their toddler run, arms outstretched towards the dog.
PUPPY, PUPPY, PUPPY!
I started to lose my voice warning the child not to approach before the child’s mother finally put her phone down and came to collect the youngster.
One paw from this large, energetic young puppy would have hurt the child!
Leanne started volunteering in 2002 in the Youth & Animal Program at the OSPCA walking and clicker training dogs.
More from Leanne:
I volunteered at the OSPCA for eight years. The last couple of years I joined a group of volunteers who developed a program to orient and train new dog walkers. It was called BuddyUp. Collectively we oriented over 300 new dog walkers in approx. Three years.
In January 2011 I started volunteering at GAC. There was no orientation program for dog walkers at the time, so I offered to start orienting new dog walkers. Fellow volunteer Ruth and I started offering the Canine Communication Workshop for the shelter’s dog walkers AND the public. We run the workshop every four months or so.
I have an interest in training dogs using positive reinforcement, and I have attended many seminars over the past 14 years with some of the world’s most respected positive-reinforcement trainers like Kathy Sdao, Dr. Sophia Yin, Yvette Van Veen, Nicole Wilde, etc. I’d guess 15-20 seminars. I also completed a 6-month dog trainer program through the Karen Pryor Academy.
My focus with the shelter dogs is to mark and reward all the behaviors they offer that I find desirable so that they will repeat those behaviors.
I strive to avoid positive punishment and negative reinforcement in my dog training and the use of aversives or corrections. My goal is to keep the dogs feeling safe and treat them with respect.
When working with reactive dogs, my favourite protocol is CARE (Counter Conditioning and positive Reinforcement are Essential for Reactive Dogs). Identify the dog’s triggers for reactivity, work at a distance at which they are not reacting to the trigger, pair the trigger with something they REALLY like and create a conditioned positive emotional response to the trigger, decrease the distance from the trigger, repeat, repeat, repeat. Also, mark and reward all the behaviors you’d prefer the dog to be doing rather than reacting like checking in with you, holding eye contact, sitting, etc. That’s over simplified so folks should check out the protocol for a detailed description.
When introducing new dogs to each other, I prefer to take it slow and go for a nice walk with the dogs. Alternating walking ahead and behind each other, then parallel to each other, then around each other all the while watching their body language to assess whether they seem comfortable and interested in meeting each other. If they seem uncomfortable or are avoiding each other, I’ll stop the intro there. If they seem comfortable, we’ll do a brief face to face intro and encourage them to circle around to the bums. Greetings tend to go best if 3-5 seconds and then the dogs are encouraged to separate. The humans can help create a smooth greeting by keeping their leashes loose and moving around with their dog to ensure leashes don’t get tangled, and the dogs can go through their natural greeting routines.
Photo taken by Oak & Myrrh Photography
Thank you, Leanne, for this great information and thank you, Tammy and Tricia, for sharing your experiences.
Also, a huge thank you to the ROVER team of dog walkers, for suggesting the need for this information.
Dogs react to people’s energy. If I become nervous or stressed in a situation, I notice my dogs act accordingly. By looking ahead for potential situations (dogs loose on property), I am better able to avoid stressful situations. If we behave as responsible dog owners and respect others everyone will be safe, and no one will be hurt – person or dog.
Check back soon for our post addressing ‘leash aggression.’
There is SO MUCH great information in this post, I wish every dog owner could read this. Bravo! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Amy – much appreciated.
Some people simply suck and have no clue. I can’t count how many times I get the , it’s okay my dog is friendly… well mine is training aND it’s NOT okay..
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As a past owner of a fearful and reactive dog, I could never understand why people insisted in coming right up to me and my dog even though I said no, and even when I went as far as crossing a street to avoid them. And then there is the person that says ,”oh, it’s ok, my dog is friendly!”
I wish people would understand that not all dogs want attention or to interact with other dogs.
It’s NOT okay. I’m sorry you had that experience.
This is such timely information! I have a puppy who we are trying to socialize, but he is very fearful of strangers so we have to be careful, but people see a puppy and automatically assume he is fair game. Sigh. Great tips.
That is a huge challenge. And Murray is so adorable! Together you can educate people.
Ugh. Unless people are told off, or have something BAD happen because of improper leashing, it seems, they walk around in oblivion. We have a retractable leash offender up the street, and another neighbor who jogs with his dog off leash (always off leash). He doesn’t understand that even though his dog is friendly, someone else’s dog could be seriously compromised. Not to mention the dog could get hit by a car. So frustrating.
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As the owner of a dog that is dog reactive, I can relate to this. I try and steer away from people – nothing personal. It’s just I know it will not end in a good way if the dogs meet. It is so important for people to respect this!
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Another great point Miss Molly – IT IS NOT PERSONAL! I remember being told of an instance when a woman was completely offended when my friend would not allow her dog to interact with this woman’s dog. It’s about the dog and always should be.
My mom’s dog tends to be dog reactive and some people don’t understand it. They will tell my mom, he’ll be fine! Luckily, my mom stands her ground.
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Good for her. Hopefully the people she meets will learn from her practices.
We cross the street a lot! I think my biggest pet peeve is people who have their off-leash dogs around and yell that their dogs are friendly. The last dog that happened with, I’m seriously worried he’s going to get hit by a car. Big black dog running around off-leash in the dark with no recall? Yeah….
WOW! That is a disaster waiting to happen.
Luckily for us, we haven’t encountered very many issues when we take our dogs on a walk. It is kind of crazy what some people run into. You just have to wonder why some people don’t have common sense.
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It is concerning. Thanks for visiting, Beth!
What a terrific post with tons of great information! Harley was reactive, Shasta is not so I’ve been on both ends of this particular leash so to speak…. Respecting an owner and their dog seems like it should be common sense but so often it is not….
Indeed, common sense is not so common. Thanks Denise.
Excellent post! I’m continually frustrated by people who insist on their dogs greeting mine too. My dogs are super friendly but when we’re on a walk I don’t want them to greet every single strange dog out there. It’s amazing how many times a dog owner will ignore my request not approach or to call their off leash dog away from us. My biggest peeve is off leash dogs in the neighborhood or on hiking trails, and children “walking” dogs on their own. Young kids not only lack, as you mention, the maturity to handle potentially dangerous situations that may come up but they also usually lack the physical Strength to hold or pull a dog away if a fight were to erupt. Kids always want to just bring their dog right over to meet every other dog they see. They don’t understand why that’s not always a good idea.
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What a great post! I also have a sometimes reactive dog – all fear based. We adopted Ruby at age 7 or 8 and she had previously lived in a hoarding situation. I imagine there were many fights for food. As a result, it’s like she doesn’t quite know how to be around other dogs – like is it fun or do I need to defend myself. When we first adopted her, we had a run in with an off leash large dog. The dog was perfectly friendly, but not on a leash or very well trained. He jumped on Ruby and she freaked a bit – and long story short, he broke her toe and she was in a cast for a month.
I now have a sense of which dogs might frighten her and admit, I do cross the street sometimes to avoid putting her in uncomfortable situations. She also reacts to men with hats and jogging. We are working on these issues with clicker training and positive reinforcement.
This is why I get upset. It should be about the dogs. You are someone trying to help your dog overcome her fear and these ignorant people are hindering your progress. A broken toe??? Ruby is a trooper!!!
I can so identify with this post as Kilo the Pug is a fearful reactive rescue. People are always coming up with dogs or to pat him and I have to scoop him up or pull away as I just never know how he will react. He has 2 dogs he doesn’t mind and others he will go crazy at (especially big ones). He panics when puppies come bounding over off leash.
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People seem to assume small dogs are friendly?!
I’m so glad you pinned this post today. I live (and love) two hounds that are both reactive on leash. They have to be walked separately and I’m a big advocate for all the things in this post. We tried wearing yellow bandannas when that campaign was taking off and then failed… we have both dogs in Nosework and also in growly classes but all up – I manage their behavior with positive reinforcement and look at games. Both work well but they are not to greet on leash dogs as that’s the issue…. Thanks for this. Let’s just say I can relate to Tammy!
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Thank you Christine for sharing your experience and the work you do with your dogs.